A love Story

Years ago, I learnt that God is the best matchmaker, with a great sense of humour.  He can write any love story in the most creative way, using the most unexpected scenarios.   Before I met my husband, I was in this administrative job for years and I was crying out to God to move me on from that position. I was bored and frustrated. It was not based on my degree and I felt I was wasting my time and purpose. However, God did not see it fit to move me. It seemed as if His ears were deaf to my pleas, but I was later to discover why.

We had many supervisors who came and went in my workplace and one such supervisor used to visit the centre, where I worked, a couple of times per week.  I paid no mind to him except to wonder why he was always late and why he didn't cut his hair! My colleague would also note this and laugh with me. One day, he came into work with his hair cut and I was intrigued. I asked my friend to ask him if he was single and he said he was.  I found out he was a Christian and we eventually went out on our first date. He seemed mature, sweet and kind but what a shocker it was when he revealed his age. He was about seven years younger than me. I was not ready to hear that because I was ready to marry! He reassured me he wanted a serious relationship too but I was still somewhat wary.

Before meeting my husband to be, I had begun to pray and ask for a husband and the Lord instructed me to write down the qualities I wanted in my spouse. I wrote down a long list, thought this guy did not exist and put it away. However, I began to tick off all the qualities on my list, mentally, when I began dating him.  My husband did not go to the same church as I did but I felt a sense of peace about him.  When he proposed after about 18 months, I knew that God had given me the desires of my heart.

This blessing did not come easy.  I had waited for a long time to even date. I was single for about eight years when I got saved and my church did not believe in the ‘boyfriend business’.  We were meant to wait on the Lord until God saw fit to bring us our mate. I was glad that I waited. My heart was not entangled in relationship after relationship with different men, who were not meant to be my husband. It made sense to focus on my relationship with God, instead of having a placeholder or 'Mr Right Now'. I had observed this phenomenon with a variety of Christian women, who had taken their love life into their own hands because they did not trust that God would bring the right man into their life. I saw this wrought much heartbreak in the lives of these women because compromise would so often creep into their relationships.  Sometimes, they would get pregnant and their boyfriend would just break off the relationship and eventually marry someone else. 

I believe God rewarded my faithfulness with my husband. He has been a wonderful friend, partner and father to my children.  It has not been all smooth sailing but I know that he is my Mr Right.   I thank the Lord that I trusted Him to be my matchmaker.

For those who are still waiting for their spouse, take comfort in these words in Psalm 27:14, "Wait on the Lord, be of good courage and He shall strengthen thine heart, wait I say on the Lord."